Mistakes

There are things we do in life that are mistakes
Some of them we are able to rectify,
Some of them we live with the consequences
Then, there are those things we do that we want to call mistakes but they are not
They are deliberate actions born from either the conscious or the subconscious

If a man consciously raises his hand to strike a woman,
There should be no mistaking that action
It was deliberate and might possibly happen again
That is not to say it will, and forgiving a one time mistake is ok,
The second time, it is called a habit and a habit is difficult to get rid of

It is those second time actions or repeat actions that tell you exactly what to expect
As human beings, we all have the first mistake or are on the receiving end of the first mistake
Most of us have the spirit of forgiveness and we use it
At that moment, we expect that and forgive on the understanding that it was a mistake,
Unfortunately for some of us, that same action happens again.
At this time, please understand something, it is a habit.

For those in relationships, this should be the point where we pause
Take a moment to review this situation and make a judgement
Can you live with this habit or not
I have heard many friends complain after marriage that one partner does one thing constantly
Many marriages have ended in divorces over habits

The problem with habits is that they may seem to be little things before a relationship,
But during a relationship, they grow a life of their own
All of us see these habits before we commit to relationships
We either chose consciously or subconsciously to accept them, ignore them or walk away
If you choose to accept them, it means that you have decided that it is something you can handle
If you choose to ignore them, then you will meet the consequences later in the future
If you choose to walk away, you have admitted to yourself that it is something you cant handle
And in that process, you have spared in the minimum two people,
A future of potential heartaches.