Sunday is monday

I must admit, it is a bit strange for me to get up on sunday morning and head to work
I am used to heading to church, anyway, i am sure i will adapt.

Finally, i have found a flat. It is in a brand new building with a spectacular view of the swimming pool. Yes, the building has its own swimming pool, lawn tennis courts, badmington court and gym.

I know i am going to have a blast.

The situation with my toe is not too good. I have excessive uric acid in my blood from eating too much protein or kidney not acting right. The doc came round and took urine and another blood sample. He called and told me everything was fine with the samples so kidney is ok but i need to treat the excess uric acid or it will cause damage in later life. I am on medication right now and i am sure its all good.

As usual, i will update you all of my progress in settling in Dubai and the amazing life i will be living.

Taxi drivers

It has been a mixed bag so far.
I must admit, i am loving Dubai but the taxi drivers, boy do they get your blood boiling.
Everyone says it, they are a nightmare. They are like taxi drivers in Lagos,
except that this one cannot just charge you any fare, they are metered.

They tend to refuse to go short distances cos it is not worth their while and boy,
some of them are rude! Anyways, i will be dealing with them a lot in the next
few months until i sort out my driving license and a car. Not looking forward to that.

Two days after i arrived in Dubai, the big toe on my right foot started to ache, just out
of the blues. I did not hit it on anything so i thought it would take care of itself. It did
until this morning when i woke up and the pain was back with a vengance. It has a little swelling
and it is making wearing shoes difficult for me. I will have to see a doctor today as i refuse
to just leave it be again. The pain while walking is excruciating.

Have to go now, time to go back to the hotel, they will call out a doctor to come and see me.

Dubai

People, Lanre has landed.

I am now in Dubai and i started work today. It has been quite interesting already and Dubai is all that you see on t.v. My hotel room that i am staying in at the moment, out of this world. It will be 7* in the U.K.

I don't have loads of time now to give you all gist but i will in due course.

I just thought i should let my people know that Lanre has landed in Dubai.

Grief

I had been speaking to a friend who went through/experience some grief lately. In speaking to this friend, i was able to detect the stages of grief in my friend. Denial, anger, bargaining, depression and then grieving.

Many of us have gone through some pain either through relationship or lose of loved one.

I recently looked at my adult life, to when i suffered some grief and i can honestly tell you that i went through all the five stages listed above. I denied the situation, got angry with the way things paned out, tried bargaining with God, promising to change my ways if he would reverse the situation and when that did not happen, i got depressed. The final stages or purging stage was the grieving stage. This was when i finally faced up to the truth and allowed the pain to take its toll and leave.

I have spoken to people that have gone through different degrees of grief and what i have learnt is people deal with grief in different ways but one thing that is constant is the five stages is always almost present.
Locking oneself away from dealing with grief or looking for excuses to assist us in finding a place where we can hide from the reality of our grief is never helpful. While your story will help you find a cave to hide your grief, it never helps you get over it.

Manual Labour

Today is manual labour day.
I had stopped manual labour a long time ago
but today, i have to mow the lawn in my front
and back garden.
This means that i will be free to do stuff on the inside of the house tomorrow.
I will be home all day packing up all the rest of my stuff,
Marking up the things that my friends want to take
And the things that i will be leaving in the house.
Drowning under stuff to do!

Inner peace

I had an interesting conversation with someone a few days ago
During that conversation, i was told that she got to a place in her life after some
days of agony, where she felt at peace with herself.
I was pleased to hear that and i hope it remains that way.

I have had moments of emotional torture over things that have happened in my life
In most of those moments, i have had to confront the situation to be able to have peace
Some of the times i have made peace, in other times, it did not work out the way i planned
But through it all, i trust God enough to know that where i was wrong and asked for HIS
forgiveness, i was forgiven and only hope that those i had wronged had found it in their
hearts to forgive me as well.

Update

I will endeavour to keep you guys posted on my relocation.

I have packed all my clothes and put aside the ones that are being sent to the charity shops
I have packed all my paper-work together and i should be packing my cd's
I still have all my shoes to pack, that might turn out to be a nightmare. I think i will be giving away most of them to charity.
Once i am done upstairs, i will come downstairs. This is where the most palaver is.

I should be giving away most things in my house, i have friends already tagging stuff they want. As a matter of fact, one painting has gone already.

Stay tuned, will keep you posted.

Gratitude

5 Things i am most thankful for

1. Thankful to God that i wake up every morning as some people go to bed and do not wake up
the next day, i have a roof over my head and food to eat. I am healthy and God watches over
my coming and going.

2. Thankful for the family i have. They are loving, supportive and prayerful.

3. Thankful for the continuous increase in my life. God has been good to me and he continues to
bless me.

4. Thankful for the people i can call my friends.

5. I am thankful for all the experiences i have gone through. Whether good or bad, they have
made me the man i am today.


5 People (non-family) i am most grateful for

1. Uche Okike. My closest friend in secondary school. He would share everything he had with
me, thinking at all times about my welfare. Okykes, thank you.

2. Henry Aluede. I met Eji-raster while i was in university of Lagos and i made a friend for
life. He would give the shirt off his back to me come rain or sunshine. He is a friend that
asked for nothing in return.

3. Mr&Mrs Babatope. Thank you for the support when i needed it most. I will forever be
indepted to you and your family.

4. Widad Sheik-Fareed. What can i say about this woman? She gave everything to me and
for me. There will never be words that will describe my eternal gratitude. You truly are
an angel. Thank you very much from the bottom of my heart.

5. Taiwo Ogunfuwa (T.Y). Few people fit the description of guardian angel. You have given so
much to me and to many others so that we can get on in life. A truly selfless man.
I am honoured to have met you.

Victim Syndrome

My father did this when i was a child
My mother did this when i was a child
My siblings got this while we were kids
My ex boyfriend did this to me while we were dating

The excuses are many and varied and unfortunately, the thing in vogue right now
It is ok to blame the rest of the world for the way we are
Or the way we do things and fail miserably

Nowadays, it is fashionable to play the victim
Too many people wear that badge with pride, excusing their behaviour

At 15, you are a victim. At 25, you are bodering on irresponsible.
The yoruba people have a saying:
It falls upon you to give birth to yourself again.
we have become a world that seeks excuses for everything,
Nobody wanting to take full responsibility for their actions.

I have met people who have been real victims in their lives
But refuse to wear the victim badge. The have gone about their lives
with dignity, taking full responsibility for the things they do and say and
my hat goes off to them.
On the other hand, there are those that have gone through the same thing
That most of us have been through but look for a way to make it more than it is.
They excuse their bad behaviours and rotten attitude with Victimitis.

It is time people start growing up, taking full responsibility for their own actions
and stop leaning on excuses to continue to perpetrate disgusting habits.

What is wrong is wrong and as an adult, it is time to pull yourself together.

This much to do

It is quite upsetting when you put your heart and soul into something
And it all falls apart before your eyes

I was in the process of writing some serious ***t about stuff that i left behind
I guess i am more pissed off than i thought but i have resolved to get over it

I should be concentrating on new things, new people or old people
I have as of today been given the confirmation of the hotel i will be staying in for my first month in Dubai.
I have my flight booking as well and i am looking forward to leaving this place now
Now, i have everything in place. I have sold my car and my house is in the hands of the estate agent. I have started packing my things and boy do i have lots of junk.
Wish i had six hands
I have so much to do, sorting it out just by myself is going to be a nightmare