Grief

I had been speaking to a friend who went through/experience some grief lately. In speaking to this friend, i was able to detect the stages of grief in my friend. Denial, anger, bargaining, depression and then grieving.

Many of us have gone through some pain either through relationship or lose of loved one.

I recently looked at my adult life, to when i suffered some grief and i can honestly tell you that i went through all the five stages listed above. I denied the situation, got angry with the way things paned out, tried bargaining with God, promising to change my ways if he would reverse the situation and when that did not happen, i got depressed. The final stages or purging stage was the grieving stage. This was when i finally faced up to the truth and allowed the pain to take its toll and leave.

I have spoken to people that have gone through different degrees of grief and what i have learnt is people deal with grief in different ways but one thing that is constant is the five stages is always almost present.
Locking oneself away from dealing with grief or looking for excuses to assist us in finding a place where we can hide from the reality of our grief is never helpful. While your story will help you find a cave to hide your grief, it never helps you get over it.